Losing a pet: Grieving the loss of a friend

Unconditional Love

Losing a pet can be one of the most painful experiences a person can have. There is much talk in today’s world about unconditional love. It would be wonderful if human beings were capable of displaying the same unconditional love our pets give us.

Have you lost a pet that you still miss that died one, five or over ten years ago? You are not alone…

Many people grieve the loss of their pets for many years following the loss because they were never given the proper tools to recover from their grief. Instead of recovering from their loss, they learn to live with their pain, hoping that time will heal. Unfortunately time alone never heals.

Some people are surprised at the intensity of the pain they feel after losing a pet because they compare the loss of a pet to that of a person. But is it that shocking?

Our pets are our constant companions. They love us whether we have a good day or a bad day. They are the closest we will ever experience to unconditional love because they don’t judge. For many people the relationship they have with their pets is closer than the relationships they have with many people, so when our pets die, run away, or have to be put to sleep, it’s heartbreaking.

Until now there were very few resources on what do when your pet died. Well meaning friends and family suggested replacing the pet with a new one. Some people got a new pet only to find they didn’t love it with the same intensity as the one that died. Others decide to never get a pet again, so they won’t have to endure another loss. The problem with all those suggestions is they don’t deal with the real issue, which is emotional completion with the pet that died. This is important so that the loss doesn’t affect future relationships.

The Problem

Grief is the normal and natural reaction to a loss of any kind. However, pet loss is one of the most discounted grieving experiences out there. All too often people say things like: “It was just a cat.”, “Why don’t you get another dog? That will make you feel better.” “Don’t feel bad, they are in a better place.” “I know you feel bad, but it’s been a month. Shouldn’t you be over this by now?” The truth is, there is often an added layer to pet loss in that many times, we as the pet parent have to make the gut wrenching decision to determine when their end will come. “Did I do it too soon?” “Was it really the right thing to do?” “I feel so guilty!” Sometimes due to live circumstances we have to surrender our pets for reasons beyond our control. The bottom line is regardless of why our relationship with our pet has ended, we are left feeling incomplete and with regrets. Compounded by the fact that many people don’t understand and are not helpful, we are forced to stuff our feelings inside. One of the saddest things that can happen with unresolved grief around a pet is the resistance to opening up our hearts and homes to another pet in the future out of fear of being hurt again.

The Solution

People say that you have to let go and move on with your life but no one tells you how to do that.  The Grief Recovery Program for Pet Loss is a way for you to really heal your heart around the loss of your pet.  Not only will you be given a safe place to talk openly and honestly with someone without fear of being judged, you will be shown what actions you can take to truly grieve this special relationship and get emotionally complete with anything unfinished. By healing in this way, you will also be able to let go of the pain around the loss of your pet and hold onto all the fond memories. When you do this, you can then better decide from a place of peace whether or not you would eventually be open to getting another pet in the future.

How To Get Started…

At this point you might be wondering what the next step is. It’s important to take action but also to proceed at a pace that you feel comfortable with. So here is what you can do to take the next step:

Simply schedule a Free 15 minute consultation with Maggie, during this time feel free to ask Maggie anything you like about the Helping Children Deal With Loss Support program so that you feel 100% comfortable with the process. This is a no pressure call simply to answer any questions you have and to see if this program is a good fit for you. And if it is then Maggie will show you how you can get started. That’s it… Now use the link below to schedule your Free 15 minute phone consultation with Maggie today.

The Next Step…

Schedule a Free 15min Consultation

FAQ’s

What is The Grief Recovery Method® program?

For 1:1 sessions, it’s a once-a-week face-to-face (or online) process that gives you the tools, space, and support to work through and release the pain surrounding the loss of a pet. This program lasts six weeks although, because the grief process is so unique and individual, on occasion additional time may be required for completion. This may also be done in a group setting when available.

What's the difference between one-on-one and group programs?

In a one-on-one program, you’ll work directly with me. You’ll hear my story and get direct support from me throughout.

In a group program, you’ll work with me as well as others. You’ll hear my story as well as the stories of others and get support from the group through the later weeks of the program.

What losses are okay to work on?

For this program, any losses of any pets under any circumstances are welcome either recent or long ago.

What can I expect from our time together?

During each 60 minute session, you’ll be welcomed into a confidential, non-judgmental space where you’ll be expected to share the truth of your story as it happened to you. You’ll also be expected to complete weekly reading and homework assignments.

From me, you can expect open ears and an open heart ready to receive your story. I’m also available to answer logistical questions about the program.

What should I bring?

A notebook and something to write with. Books and worksheets will be provided for you.

Do I have to attend every session?

Yes. If you miss a one-on-one session, you’ll be asked to reschedule your session with the possibility of incurring a fee. Emergencies come up in life! However, if you miss more than two group sessions, you’ll be given the opportunity to finish with another group at another time or apply your group fee to complete individually with me.

How is The Grief Recovery Method® different from therapy?

The Grief Recovery Method® is a series of steps specifically designed to help you recover from major loss within a set time frame. Unlike traditional therapy, The Grief Recovery Method® comes with a preestablished framework, a distinct focus on grief, and a limited number of meetings.

Do you have questions? Schedule a Free Consultation…

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